Updated: Apr 8
Let me just say, that is the one question that I never want to be asked or be asking.
Something happened today and it was NOTHING like it seemed.
I’ve got 3 dogs, and any time this question comes up, there is only one answer….
Yeah, you guessed it, one of those furry friends took a huge steaming pile of nasty snelling, impossible to clean up without gagging 💩 all over the stairs.
With a repeat performance on a different staircase just a few hours later.
Seriously, I can’t make this stuff up…. it was a literal shi*t show.
So why am I telling you this?
As I was cleaning up this foul mess and muttering under my breath, “Why is this happening?” (ok, it eventually went under my breath, but in full transparency, I started off shouting in the dogs’ direction)
The answer hit me like a ton of bricks.
These literal sh*t piles were like neon signs illuminating that I had some of my own shit that I've been ignoring, especially in the wake of COVID-19 which made it easier to ignore.
And now, there was no way of avoiding it. There it was right in front of me and I had to clean it up, literally and figuratively.
After I finished literally cleaning it up, I sat down with myself and asked some serious questions to get to the root of the problem. I did some breathwork, journalled and went through several of my mind body exercises to acknowledge and work through the uncomfortable emotions I had been pushing aside. I was cleaning up my messes.
I know right now is a challenging time, whether your home or work life has been turned upside down or not, there are going to be a lot of things rising to the surface that you had long kept submerged.
You may feel yourself fighting against what is happening, which locks you into the “fight or flight” state of your nervous system which then feeds more uncomfortable feelings like anxiety and fear. More than that, being in fight or flight mode directs all your energy and resources toward the fight and away from vital, yet non-essential functions like digestion, detoxification and immunity. So you physically feel like sh*t on top of feeling it emotionally.
The more you resist and try to push things down, the bigger the piles get and the more you amplify the stink.
Listen, I’m not gonna sugar coat it - it can be really hard, painful and uncomfortable to peel away the layers and lean into your emotions. There are times when it can feel so intense that you will do almost anything you can to avoid it. You might try to buffer the feelings with food, alcohol, exercise or other distractions like work or social media.
I hear you. I’m right there with you. But I have also become acutely aware of the truth that what we resist persists. Like those steaming piles of poop and the stains they leave behind. The only way out is to get up close, brave the stink and begin cleaning up the mess.
Because when we resist and suppress feelings like shame, fear and anger, they can manifest inside as exhaustion, lack of energy and gut issues and show up on the outside as skin irritation, inflammation and accelerated aging.
So, let me ask you, what shi*t piles in your life have you been avoiding cleaning up?
Just because they are your piles, doesn’t mean you have to clean them up alone. If you need help cleaning up your messes, let’s set up a time to chat.
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