Are you stressed about feeling stressed? You’re not alone, but here’s the good news….you can use that stress to your advantage, starting NOW!
If you’ve read my book, “The Skin Whisperer”, you know I dive deeper into this, but if it’s been awhile since you’ve read it or you haven’t had the chance yet, I want to share some insight and tools to help you get the most out of your emotions.
Because here’s the thing, there are always going to be scenarios, situtations and relationships that have the potential to raise your blood pressure, make your heart beat faster and cause your palms to get clammy.
But how you perceive stress makes a huge difference regarding how you process it. Do you see stress as a threat or as danger? Or do you view stress as an opportunity to challenge yourself?
When you see stress as an opportunity for personal growth, your heart may race, and your adrenaline goes up, but you get a jolt of energy which differs from the fight or flight response in several important ways that work for you rather than against you:
💥You feel focused rather than frazzled.
💥You can more readily able to tap into your mental and physical capacities.
💥Your outlook shifts from pessimistic to optimistic
The outcome is that your level of confidence, concentration and performance is amplified. What’s more is that people who are able to think about stress more like an opportunity and less like a threat report lower depression, anxiety, have higher levels of energy, better work performance, and increased life satisfaction.
Plus from a skin standpoint, this means fewer wrinkles, frown lines and dark circles. Hands up if you want that?
If your tendency is to want everything to be simple, predictable and secure, then 2020 is the perfect time to shift your focus about stress and try on a different lens. Here’s how:
Change your response to “What if?”
When you are in stress mode, the default answer to “what if?” is usually a negative.
For example, you are launching a new program in your business and you’re worried it won’t succeed. “What if it fails? What if no one buys it? What if I spent all this time creating it and it doesn’t work out. Time wasted?”
Now let’s flip that script and change your response.
“What if the launch is a huge success? What if all the time I spent creating it taught me new skills so creating other programs is so much easier? What if only a few people buy it and I can get their feedback for how to make the next version even better?”
Two very different responses to the same question. One puts you into defeat mode with associated feelings of depression, anxiety and overwhelm and the other into possibilities mode boosting your resilience, energy and creativity.
Shake Things Up
Do you allow for flex time in your schedule or are your days planned out to the minute?
Don’t get me wrong, having a schedule especially when juggling work, family and social obligations are useful and necessary. But rigidly sticking to your plan may backfire and be counterproductive to your overall sense of wellbeing, creativity and performance.
Giving yourself permission to allow flexibility in your schedule and more importantly by intentionally creating opportunities to shake things up from your typical routine will increase your resilience (and perhaps spark some unexpected joy from the novelty!)
Try new things
Does the idea of trying something new make your tummy do flips? Does the idea of change make you feel anxious and overwhelmed?
Trying something new and pushing you out of your comfort zone is uncomfortable. I totally get it.
But it’s in the experience of discomfort that you grow and develop new skills.
So start small and/or start with something that’s meant to be fun like taking up a new hobby. Taking an art class, or music lession or joining a meet-up group of like minded people in your area of interest are great ways to introduce change and to challenge yourself in bite-size pieces.
By stepping into an opportunity to try new things it’s not only a great way to reduce stress, recharge your creativity and get in the flow, it also builds your resilience, improves your performance and bonus...makes you happier.
Stress isn’t the enemy. It’s a reality that you can leverage to your advantage starting now. 2020 is your year. You got this!